She was sobbing hysterically in the luggage claim area of
the airport. All by herself. No one helping her.
I
realized I had seen her a few minutes early, at 7:30 pm in the main terminal,
begging an airport staff person to help her. "I lost my cell phone. No one is helping me." Assuming she would be helped, I just kept walking.
In
luggage claim, she needed help. I stayed with her. I kept asking a nearby
airport visitor information volunteer to call security, the police or EMS.
"I can't find my license. I can't
find my cell phone. I have no boarding pass. How can I get back through
security?" She was young,
scared and overwhelmed. She was having a panic attack. She looked like she was
going to pass out. I bought her a bottle of water. The volunteer said he made
phone calls but no officials appeared.
"I have friends at gate 5a. They have my
carryon. I don't have my medication. I need medication." She would calm down, then another panic attack would overwhelm her. I could not leave
her. She found her boarding pass. I got her first name, her mid-20s age. I got the name of a friend at gate
5a, but no one from the airport was contacting them. She could not remember her
mom's phone number. She was flying from California to upstate New York. She finally found her drivers license. She
finally remembered her dad’s phone number. She couldn't breathe. She couldn't stand up.
She needed help. What should I do?
I stayed.
I helped.
I was
returning from the 2013 BAMAlliance National Conference and BAM Masters Forum
meeting. I had been in St. Louis for 5 days and was tired and needed to meet my
wife to take her for a medical test. But
I needed to stay. This young woman needed help. So I stayed, as she needed me more than
Felicia did at that moment.
Speakers
at the conference talked about relationships, authenticity, trust, doing the
right thing, taking chances, showing up, giving first and without the
expectation of anything in return. Seth Godin. Jerry Greenfield. Dr. Robert
Cialdini. Carl Richards. Jason Womack. They were all different, but essentially
their messages had a common thread. Care. Be present. Do the right thing. How could I just walk away and ignore
her? She needed help.
She could get through security, but she was not physically able to get up. She kept collapsing. "Where are the police?," I asked the volunteer. “Can
you get EMS? She is close to passing out”
I kept repeating.
Finally,
after almost 30 minutes, one police officer arrived. I gave him the information I had written down on a yellow sheet
of legal paper. Her name. Her friend’s name. Where she was going. Then another officer arrived. They said I should go. They would handle it.
So I
left. Worried. Would she be OK? Would
she be physically able to make her 9:25 pm flight to NY state? I got on the shuttle bus to get my car. The only other person on the bus worked at the airport. “Is she OK?”
he asked. I was startled. What was he talking about? He said he had
seen me with that woman in the luggage area. He said he saw the whole thing. “Did I know her?”,
he
asked. No, I said. I was just trying to
help her.
As I
drove from the airport to get my wife, thoughts flew through my head. Why did
the airport employee I talked to on the shuttle bus, who watched this all unfold, do nothing? Why didn’t he try to help? Why didn’t the people in the Delta
office help? Or just make a phone call?
Why did it take so long for the police or other emergency people or even
security personnel at the airport so long to respond?
Today,
the next day, I feel good that I tried my best to help this young woman. I didn’t even think about it. On Monday morning, in the calm of a
beautiful hotel, surrounded by colleagues and friends, Seth Godin said to do
what our gut tells us to do. Be vulnerable. Take chances. (And to write more).
Last night, on Tuesday evening, I wasn’t thinking about Seth Godin’s speech. I was just trying to help another human being who
was going through a crisis situation.
I can’t get her out of my mind. I don’t know if she was able to overcome the panic attacks to
make her flight or if she needed further medical treatment. I’m worried about her. At some point in this 30 minutes with her, I wrote down my
cell phone number for her on the back of my business card, if she needed more assistance.
I hope I hear from
her. I just want to know that she is OK.